Love Isn’t Complicated

Have you been on the verge of getting sick – sick enough that you don’t feel right but unsure if it justifies taking a day off work? Here is a simple exercise to determine how sick you are: try to open a package of cold pills. If you are able to open it easily, you are not sick enough to stay home from work. If you are sick enough to really need the medicine, you won’t be able to figure out how to open the foil package!

Complicated – why do we make life so complicated?Confucius said, Life is really simple but we insist on making it complicated. Click To Tweet

In honor of Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about love a minute. Love is really very simple, but we make it complicated. Here is a definition of love that I heard when I was a teenager:Love is having the other person's best interest at heart, regardless of the personal consequences. Click To Tweet

Real love isn’t complicated – it’s focusing on the other person’s needs instead of your own. But what makes it hard is that we are selfish people who tend to focus on our own needs wants instead of the other person.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (I Corinthians 13:4-7)

Simple and easy are two very different things. Just because love is theoretically simple does not mean that it is easy to always do. It requires conscious choice every single day… and not just on Valentine’s Day!

In order to have the best marriage possible, you have to decide every single day to focus on the other person’s needs. Simple. That may be the best Valentine’s Day present ever; true love will mean more than a rose that withers in less than a week.

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