Christmas was wonderful! You had a great time visiting with relatives that you haven’t seen since last Christmas, the kids have been playing with all their new toys, you have eaten wonderful meals … but if find yourself wistfully looking at the calendar and wishing Christmas vacation was over so you can go back to normal, here are two quick tips that may help you out a bit. If this applies to you, you must be feeling frazzled and overwhelmed, so don’t worry, I promise to keep it short.
First, remember that it’s all about perspective. Perspective is the point of view or focus that you have. You can choose to focus on the chaos, disorder and lack of regular schedule (which probably is there) or you can make the conscious choice to focus on the relationships and fun that you don’t get to enjoy on a regular basis. Maybe your house is truly a wreck; but you will have time to clean it up in a few weeks. If you fuss and worry about it now you will lose the opportunity to visit with those you love. You will also create memories of stress instead of memories of laughing, fun and happy times together. Life really is about perspective – you can choose what you focus on.
Second, keep your expectations manageable. Many of us have visions of the perfect holiday – decorations that make Martha Stewart look like a kindergarten student, meals that make the Food Network blush in shame, and effortlessly fun family interactions with absolutely no hints of stress. I used to be one of those people, but I had to learn the hard way that perfection is impossible. I used to work so hard to make everything perfect that I took away from the fun of the event. Over the past few years, I have relaxed quite a bit and found that I (and everyone else for that matter) have a lot more fun when I don’t have unrealistic expectations for the event. As the Christmas holiday continues, there will be the inevitable catastrophes – kids will start fighting, some of their toys will break, relatives may start to get on each other’s nerves, and at least one of your meals may be a complete flop. And, in spite of that, it can still be a wonderful time. Let me encourage you to relax and enjoy the chaos – it won’t be perfect so stop trying!
So, there you have it, short, sweet and to the point. Enjoy your vacation time – and maybe share this with a friend who is about to pull her hair out too 🙂